A few months ago, I was involved in a conversation with someone. She was part of the worship at a church. She was in a relationship and that relationship led to a pregnancy. The church asked her to step down from the worship team as a result, and she didn’t know the problem was. At another church, people were asking to be a part of the worship team but were turned away because they were cohabitating with someone to whom they were not married. Again, they did not see why the church said no.
I attended two separate weddings but the circumstances were the same. The couple had been living together for quite some time, had children together and finally decided to get married. Meanwhile, they are faithfully attending church as if nothing is wrong. At one, the minister made it seem like nothing had been wrong with their living situation, joking that the husband was finally doing the right thing.
It’s not like I am haven’t been there. I have fornicated, i.e., had sex before I was married. Too many times, far too many times. I know I am forgiven but I still cannot pause to think how callous and brash I was with the grace I have been given. I should’ve been told to repent but I never was and I never did. The thinking of the world meshed with mine. It seemed I was willing to be lenient, more like blind, in regards to sex but black and white with everything else.
I have picked sex because it is an obvious weakness for most people. Over the recent years we have, as a church, slowly allowed the secular world’s attitude towards sex influence our thinking. Has it become normal for Christian couples to participate in sexual behavior before marriage? I mean, the world teaches that sex in a relationship should be a given, expected. Is it now part of what people think in the church as well?
But that is not the only sin that infects the church. There is anger, gossip, lying, cheating the Father His due tithe, pretty much anything a fallen human is capable of doing. I wonder if the hearts of flesh given to us by God have slowly become petrified because we have loosened our grip on God’s truth, lost our focus on the cross and have let our eyes wander to the wiles of the world’s offerings.
Sin has been put to death by the cross. Jesus paid a heavy debt we owed and we seem to want to charge the card back up to its limit. Sin needs to be seen again for what it is, rebellion against God. Any sin, no matter how small, needs repentance. Sin prohibits our worship from reaching God’s altar. I pray that I begin to repent more than I do and the church will take an old approach to sin, one of zero tolerance.